Why Does Love Hurt?
When you meet someone, you don't always plan on becoming more that a friend to that person, but what happens when you start to develop deeper feelings for someone? Can you help it? Can you prevent it? Do you even want to?
Ok, so you and your friend have decided to advance to the next step and enter into a romantic relationship. Your feelings and emotions for this person start to get stronger and deeper. It doesn't matter how long you are together, everyone is different. Some fall emotionally stronger for others faster than others.
Does that make it any less relevant to someone that is perhaps more emotionally guarded? Some people wear their hearts on their sleeve more then others. Does that make someone more vulnerable?
When you dive deep into the emotion we call love, you are allowing yourself to a world of warm and glowing sense of self. You are then offering yourself to another in hopes of returning that glow, but what happens when that glow dims?
There are times when no matter how much you love someone, you are not "in"love with them. There are times in which you are in love with someone, but you grow a part for one reason or another. These can sometimes be the toughest time in our lives, or so we think at the time.
Growing is good. Sometimes the growing one does is good for the relationship and sometimes it isn't for the best. Sometimes it can help the relationship and make the relationship strong and grow and sometimes this particular growth has no room for the relationship and the union has come to run it's course.
Now what is you are the one that did not find your growth in this relationship. Say your partner is the one that has learned their lesson and needs to move on? Where does that leave you?
Do you feel hurt? So you feel like the warm glow with has been extinguished and now lies with you a pile of ash in a dark and lonely place for no light to shine. Well you are wrong.
Your light will shine again. That warm glow will fill your body and bring it back to life once again. Give it some time. No need to rush it.
With each experience you have in life, you are gaining knowledge and learning. You may not think you are growing, but you most certainly are. Everyone grows and learns in different elements in different ways in life and this is no different.
Find out what you were to learn from this experience. Maybe all you needed to learn was how to love and that you can love. Maybe it was to learn how to love yourself so that you could experience how it is to love another.
Every relationship that comes into your life should be met with the intention of love. Not everyone can connect on the same level. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. With that being said, we also have personalities of our own. With our own uniqueness and our personal experiences in life, we are our own person and sometimes that just doesn't always allow us to be compatible with certain entities. It's just who we are.
When you are feeling like the love of your life is now gone, remember that people and experiences are put in front of you for a reason. learn the lesson and realize that you are not only deserving to find that true compatible, romantic love of your life, but you deserve happiness in every aspect of your life. Never give up your dream to be happy.
Namaste
Stacy Lupinacci
December 15, 2009
When you meet someone, you don't always plan on becoming more that a friend to that person, but what happens when you start to develop deeper feelings for someone? Can you help it? Can you prevent it? Do you even want to?
Ok, so you and your friend have decided to advance to the next step and enter into a romantic relationship. Your feelings and emotions for this person start to get stronger and deeper. It doesn't matter how long you are together, everyone is different. Some fall emotionally stronger for others faster than others.
Does that make it any less relevant to someone that is perhaps more emotionally guarded? Some people wear their hearts on their sleeve more then others. Does that make someone more vulnerable?
When you dive deep into the emotion we call love, you are allowing yourself to a world of warm and glowing sense of self. You are then offering yourself to another in hopes of returning that glow, but what happens when that glow dims?
There are times when no matter how much you love someone, you are not "in"love with them. There are times in which you are in love with someone, but you grow a part for one reason or another. These can sometimes be the toughest time in our lives, or so we think at the time.
Growing is good. Sometimes the growing one does is good for the relationship and sometimes it isn't for the best. Sometimes it can help the relationship and make the relationship strong and grow and sometimes this particular growth has no room for the relationship and the union has come to run it's course.
Now what is you are the one that did not find your growth in this relationship. Say your partner is the one that has learned their lesson and needs to move on? Where does that leave you?
Do you feel hurt? So you feel like the warm glow with has been extinguished and now lies with you a pile of ash in a dark and lonely place for no light to shine. Well you are wrong.
Your light will shine again. That warm glow will fill your body and bring it back to life once again. Give it some time. No need to rush it.
With each experience you have in life, you are gaining knowledge and learning. You may not think you are growing, but you most certainly are. Everyone grows and learns in different elements in different ways in life and this is no different.
Find out what you were to learn from this experience. Maybe all you needed to learn was how to love and that you can love. Maybe it was to learn how to love yourself so that you could experience how it is to love another.
Every relationship that comes into your life should be met with the intention of love. Not everyone can connect on the same level. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. With that being said, we also have personalities of our own. With our own uniqueness and our personal experiences in life, we are our own person and sometimes that just doesn't always allow us to be compatible with certain entities. It's just who we are.
When you are feeling like the love of your life is now gone, remember that people and experiences are put in front of you for a reason. learn the lesson and realize that you are not only deserving to find that true compatible, romantic love of your life, but you deserve happiness in every aspect of your life. Never give up your dream to be happy.
Namaste
Stacy Lupinacci
December 15, 2009
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